1 month. 30 days. 720 hours. 43,200 minutes. 2,592,000 seconds.
Which one sounds the longest?
That is how much time my best friend has to spend with her mom, also known as Mimi to her grandson, and to my kids as well. There are a million little armies attacking this strong, beautiful, woman, mom, and friend.
She is the same fighter that took breast cancer by the horns and sent it running for the hills, tail between its legs.
No doubt my friend and her family will be going through a very trying, emotional, and sad time. Her mom’s husband will have it especially tough. They have a high-school kind of love, the kind of love you hope to last throughout your marriage.
I will not only miss my friend’s mom dearly, but it also has me wondering what if I were to lose one of my parents? With careers being the priority in today’s world, I always thought not to worry; I will get to spend time with them when they retire. But what if we don’t get to spend the retirement days with our parents?
I realized something today. We are all dying. Every day that passes leaves us one day closer to the end than yesterday. Are we living it that way? Loving with all our hearts? Remember that song “Live like you are dying”? Are we doing that? No one knows what tomorrow may bring.
Do our loved ones know just how much we love them?
Have we spent enough time with them?
Laughed enough with them?
I’m not saying do something crazy. Empty your bank account, go on a wild shopping spree, etc. Not saying “Hey, go ahead and get that expensive handbag. And the shoes.” I’m saying tell your spouse they’re wonderful, tell your kids “I love you” every time you feel it in your heart, call your grandma just to say hi. Tell your parents they’re the best parents in the world. And apologize for your behavior during years 13-18.
Tell your friends you’ll always be there. That they can count on you through thick and thin. Call them and leave them an embarrassing voicemail when you’re trying to sound strong and positive, but end up breaking down crying instead. At least that’s what I did.
Hey, it made her smile. Love ya, J.